Jen Shroder
What happens when you give a child up for adoption
By Jen Shroder
Women don't realize how gratifying it can be to give a child up for adoption rather than buy into Planned Parenthood's abortion plan.
When faced with an unplanned pregnancy, I found I couldn't abort and timidly looked into adoption. It was nothing like I had imagined. The adoption agency offered me profiles of five different families to choose from. If I didn't like any of those, they would have shown me five more. The profiles contained information like their ages, occupations, income, religion, if there were any other children, etc.
Julie and Brian seemed ideal and I agreed to meet them. We met over lunch at a nice restaurant. We both had many questions and I had a really good feeling about them. Of course prospective adoptive parents will try to impress you, most couples have been waiting for years to adopt and have gone through many hoops with the adoption agency.
There are so many options in adoption. You can sign the provided paperwork for the adoption file so that your child can look you up when he or she is an adult, or you can choose not to have any future contact. You can ask the adopting couple to send you periodic letters with pictures of the baby growing up. Julie sent me detailed letters every two years.
If everyone is willing, you can ask that the adoptive mom go through Lamaze classes with you and be there for the birth. That meant a lot to me. Most adoptive moms would jump at the chance to participate in the actual birth, and it's a positive experience for a birthmom to get to know her child's adoptive mom better, vice versa and to bond.
Many adoption agencies will encourage you to hold or view the baby in the hospital before he or she goes home with the adoptive parents. It isn't easy, and it's not all roses, it really aches to give up your child, but the memory of the adoptive parents, the feeling of peace that your child is in a good home, the confidence that you did everything you could to give your child what you believe to be the best for him or her is comforting. You might have doubts and regrets from time to time, but there is one thing I can guarantee, and that is you will not regret saying no to abortion. The contrast of where your child is compared to what society and Planned Parenthood would have had you do is stark and shocking.
Norma McCorvey of "Roe v. Wade" fought for abortion rights and has since come forward to condemn the practice. Joyce Zounis, director of Operation Outcry: Silent No More, said,
As parents, every time our children hurt, we are there. Every time they are hungry or frightened in the night, we are there. We love them, pray for them, pay for them, worry about them, sacrifice our lives and careers for them. That public schools strive so vehemently to change society to perverse liberal morals is an outrage. I paid dearly for my wrong choices, Planned Parenthood should NOT have had access to my life or my children's lives, through public education or anywhere else.
See also: How Planned Parenthood impacted my youth
http://www.blessedcause.org/indoctrination/planned%20parenthood.htm
Adoption: Give your baby a mom, not a crushed skull
http://www.blessedcause.org/aborticide/adoption.htm
Jen was interviewed by Kyal 2K on K-Talk AM 630 KTKK on Jan. 27, 2005. Click here to listen to the interview: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4.
© Jen Shroder
Women don't realize how gratifying it can be to give a child up for adoption rather than buy into Planned Parenthood's abortion plan.
When faced with an unplanned pregnancy, I found I couldn't abort and timidly looked into adoption. It was nothing like I had imagined. The adoption agency offered me profiles of five different families to choose from. If I didn't like any of those, they would have shown me five more. The profiles contained information like their ages, occupations, income, religion, if there were any other children, etc.Julie and Brian seemed ideal and I agreed to meet them. We met over lunch at a nice restaurant. We both had many questions and I had a really good feeling about them. Of course prospective adoptive parents will try to impress you, most couples have been waiting for years to adopt and have gone through many hoops with the adoption agency.
There are so many options in adoption. You can sign the provided paperwork for the adoption file so that your child can look you up when he or she is an adult, or you can choose not to have any future contact. You can ask the adopting couple to send you periodic letters with pictures of the baby growing up. Julie sent me detailed letters every two years.
If everyone is willing, you can ask that the adoptive mom go through Lamaze classes with you and be there for the birth. That meant a lot to me. Most adoptive moms would jump at the chance to participate in the actual birth, and it's a positive experience for a birthmom to get to know her child's adoptive mom better, vice versa and to bond.
Many adoption agencies will encourage you to hold or view the baby in the hospital before he or she goes home with the adoptive parents. It isn't easy, and it's not all roses, it really aches to give up your child, but the memory of the adoptive parents, the feeling of peace that your child is in a good home, the confidence that you did everything you could to give your child what you believe to be the best for him or her is comforting. You might have doubts and regrets from time to time, but there is one thing I can guarantee, and that is you will not regret saying no to abortion. The contrast of where your child is compared to what society and Planned Parenthood would have had you do is stark and shocking.
Norma McCorvey of "Roe v. Wade" fought for abortion rights and has since come forward to condemn the practice. Joyce Zounis, director of Operation Outcry: Silent No More, said,
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"Not once in eleven years was I told of the emotional complications an abortion can bring — personality changes, numbness, rage, never-ending mental anguish, the exhaustive effort of balancing my fragile state of mind, the tormenting silence of guilt and shame, the constant dissatisfaction with life and the absolute need to grieve the loss of my children."
As parents, every time our children hurt, we are there. Every time they are hungry or frightened in the night, we are there. We love them, pray for them, pay for them, worry about them, sacrifice our lives and careers for them. That public schools strive so vehemently to change society to perverse liberal morals is an outrage. I paid dearly for my wrong choices, Planned Parenthood should NOT have had access to my life or my children's lives, through public education or anywhere else.
See also: How Planned Parenthood impacted my youth
http://www.blessedcause.org/indoctrination/planned%20parenthood.htm
Adoption: Give your baby a mom, not a crushed skull
http://www.blessedcause.org/aborticide/adoption.htm
Jen was interviewed by Kyal 2K on K-Talk AM 630 KTKK on Jan. 27, 2005. Click here to listen to the interview: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4.
© Jen Shroder
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