Matt C. Abbott
Geoffrey J. Abbott, RIP
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By Matt C. Abbott
April 19, 2022

Over the last several years I haven’t written as many columns as I once did. A key reason for this is that my father, Geoffrey J. Abbott, was diagnosed with a neurodegenerative disease in 2016.

Then, in 2017, my parents and I had to make an unexpected move from Chicago, where we had lived for 33 years, to Lake Geneva, Wisconsin. My father’s health gradually declined and, in 2019, we had to place him in the veterans home (he served in Vietnam), where he could receive all the medical care my mother and I were not able to provide.

On Good Friday, April 15, 2022, after years of considerable suffering, he succumbed to his illness.

My father was a good man. Even though his death was expected, it still is quite a gut punch for me. The waves of grief have been intense, almost stifling at times, and many tears have been shed. No, my father and I didn’t agree on everything – especially when it came to politics – but I loved him dearly.

Despite knowing that, as I write this, many, many other people are experiencing a very similar grief in their own lives, it nonetheless can feel like I’m drowning in sorrow, alone, in a sea of happy people.

Things will get better, I know, but it will take a while.

Please pray for the repose of my father’s soul, and please pray for my mother and me as we carry on.

Click here to read my father’s obituary.

Also, I received the following poignant note from a friend of mine who was giving me his condolences:

    I lost my dad in a house fire going on seven years ago, and it was five days before Christmas. The first three years were very hard – the second is actually worse than the first – but once the third past, we could start to breathe again. One never truly gets over a loss like this, but with time, we learn to live with it.

    The one thing that helped me greatly was a letter someone sent my mom and I. It explained grief like this:

      Think of grieving like the sea. At times the pain and sorrow are immense like a high tide coming in. Other times it is there but significantly lessened, like a low tide. Either way know that when it hurts the most it will always roll out at some point and hit a calm for a little while. Sometimes you'll experience a low tide, other times a high tide, but there will always be those calm moments that come which give us peace. Over time you'll start to experience a more serene sea with far fewer storms to weather. It's not that we forget our loved ones; it's just that we learn to live with their absence.

Indeed.

Rest in peace, Dad.

Below are three photos of when my father served in the Army.

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Matt C. Abbott

Matt C. Abbott is a Catholic commentator with a Bachelor of Arts degree in communication, media and theatre from Northeastern Illinois University. He also has an Associate in Applied Science degree in business management from Triton College. Abbott has been interviewed on HLN, MSNBC, Bill Martinez Live, WOSU Radio in Ohio, the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel's 2019 ‘Unsolved’ podcast about the unsolved murder of Father Alfred Kunz, Alex Shuman's 'Smoke Screen: Fake Priest' podcast, WLS-TV (ABC) in Chicago, WMTV (NBC) and WISC-TV (CBS) in Madison, Wisconsin. He’s been quoted in The New York Times, the Chicago Tribune and other media outlets. He’s mentioned in the 2020 Report on the Holy See's Institutional Knowledge and Decision-Making Related to Former Cardinal Theodore Edgar McCarrick (1930 to 2017), which can be found on the Vatican's website. He can be reached at mattcabbott@gmail.com.



(Note: I welcome and appreciate thoughtful feedback. Insults will be ignored. Only in very select cases will I honor a request to have a telephone conversation about a topic in my column. Email is much preferred. God bless you and please keep me in your prayers!)

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